Of moms and daughters in law

This is what runs in your mind when you read one too many blog posts about mom / daughter in law relations and also keep reading about 'leaning in'. The whole idea of 'lean in' is bent on women supporting women and both getting ahead, rather than women competing with women, especially for getting share of a man's mind.

If, for one day, all moms, daughters and sisters in law decided to support and stand by each other, it might even turn into a maternal dominated society overnight. Why do the wife and mother have to compete for getting attention from the husband / son? On a different note, if a man's wife and mother spoke the same language, he would be very happy. In fact, he would hardly have an option other than to comply. This may however, be difficult for a generation of ma in laws which has seen a different environment since their childhood and has been conditioned to treat their daughters in law in the same manner that their ma in laws treated them.

If the change were to start by the current generation who has a son, and if this whole generation of mothers in law, daughters in law and sisters in law collaborated instead of competing, we may be headed for a society where the crimes against women would go down significantly. And this doesn't need much, except for the will to do it.

And what are the cons? Some TV serials may not remain relevant anymore, but that's not much to give, is it? I'm actually reminded of a past TV serial called 'tu-tu, main-main', showing a different kind of MIL - DIL relationship. It showed the two having constant differences of opinion among themselves, but fiercely defending each other against anyone else. That's probably where the ideal ground lies.

A post about love (!!!)

Now, I am not THAT kind of blogger / writer. I would usually refrain from blogging or writing about love or motherly emotions or any kind of f e e l i n g s. It reminds me of a scene from Everybody Loves Raymond, which, to my mind, was more of a reality show than some reality shows. In that scene, as the newly married couple Robert and Amy indulge in PDA, their seniors Ray and Debra look at each other with Debra finally saying "Remember when we were that stupid?"

But that doesn't mean I haven't had those feelings....hell, yeah I have. The wonderful thing about love is that it is capable of dominating bloody well all other feelings. I have experienced love to completely overcome fear. It can make you forget that this would be a situation in which normal people (read, those who have grown out of love) may experience fear.

In many cases involving love, one can feel one's resilience rise to an incredible level. The extent to which your mind can process things or events without reacting increases dramatically. I have seen love bring assertiveness out of an otherwise introvert person, and establishing stability over an otherwise impulsive one. 

If this capability of love, to change the innate nature of a person and to overpower other emotions were to be used in an advantageous manner, there can be tremendous achievements. But fortunately or unfortunately, where love is involved, there aren't any considerations of advantage / disadvantage. It is therefore left to destiny to bring out the best out of love. So here's wishing luck to be added to the power of love.....